Are all singles unhapy?
With the rapidly changing trends of the modern society, singlehood is being widely accepted and embraced. I think that singlehood has it's good and bad sides...One of the most popular reasons why people (especially women) prefer to be single is because of the freedom that they get. Unmarried women are not bound by spousal and family responsibilities. Being single gives them a chance to pursue their dreams and careers. They are able to focus more on themselves and do not always have to put others before themselves. Taking on late night job shifts, which is quite impossible for married people, can be done be the singles. They are also able to travel around more and go on official trips (without getting complaints about "not taking care of the family" from out-lawish in-laws).
This freedom also helps singles to develop a sense of self-sufficiency and independance. They learn not to rely on their spouse for financial assistance etc, unlike married people.
The most obvious con of singlehood is that single poeple may tend to feel more anxious and stressed than married people. This is because of the lack of emotional and moral support from their spouse and family.
The image that we get through the word "spinster" is that of an old lady surrounded by cats. Now, cats are nice animals, but they are just......cats....... Singles may feel lonely without the support and love of a partner.
So personally, even though singlehood could have it's benefits, I think marriage is the more fulfilling of the two.
My source: www.naaree.com/mamblog-section/relationships/the-pros-and-cons-of-staying-single-
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Rachel's entry on singlehood
Are all singles unhappy? Discuss
In our modern era, being single is considered the new "in" thing as we are allowed to transcend and break all boundaries regarding singlehood and marriage. Technically speaking, singles may feel the need to prove to all who believe in marriage that singlehood might not be a bad thing as many singles have shown that they are able to excel both in their career and personal life. Furthermore, being single also means more freedom to date as well as no restrictions when persuing a new relationship. There is no right or wrong in dating multiple partners, hence singles may actually love this new and hip lifestyle change as they need not conform to the traditional norms of marriage.
Morever, being single also has its privilages. There are many clubs and pubs having promotions to attract singletons to enjoy themselves and wind down. Singles can also apply for matchmaking agencies where you can meet many different types of the opposite gender who come from all walks of life. Being married restricts oneself from enjoying these privilages, hence the popular option to remain single. in addition, singles are now so independent and are able to support themselves, therefore seeing no need to depend on a spouse to bring back the dough for the family. Therefore, I believe that singletons remain single and on the market because of many perks that singlehood can offer them. Hence, who dares to say that singles are unhappy?
In our modern era, being single is considered the new "in" thing as we are allowed to transcend and break all boundaries regarding singlehood and marriage. Technically speaking, singles may feel the need to prove to all who believe in marriage that singlehood might not be a bad thing as many singles have shown that they are able to excel both in their career and personal life. Furthermore, being single also means more freedom to date as well as no restrictions when persuing a new relationship. There is no right or wrong in dating multiple partners, hence singles may actually love this new and hip lifestyle change as they need not conform to the traditional norms of marriage.
Morever, being single also has its privilages. There are many clubs and pubs having promotions to attract singletons to enjoy themselves and wind down. Singles can also apply for matchmaking agencies where you can meet many different types of the opposite gender who come from all walks of life. Being married restricts oneself from enjoying these privilages, hence the popular option to remain single. in addition, singles are now so independent and are able to support themselves, therefore seeing no need to depend on a spouse to bring back the dough for the family. Therefore, I believe that singletons remain single and on the market because of many perks that singlehood can offer them. Hence, who dares to say that singles are unhappy?
Wow wow wow, what a pleasant surprise I had this morning to see several posts up already. Good job, P14!
Credits to Wendy who scanned/took a picture of that very interesting article. I read it in the papers a couple of days back and meant to bring it for lesson but kudos to you for bringing that up before I could! :) Thanks, Wendy.
Those are some really good posts, P14. Keep them coming. Although you have posted, you can always counter your friends' posts. This would serve as some practice for your 'counter-argument' skills when writing GP essays. :)
As for the rest of you, take note that you have to post by Friday night! :)
Fr: Miss Diana
Credits to Wendy who scanned/took a picture of that very interesting article. I read it in the papers a couple of days back and meant to bring it for lesson but kudos to you for bringing that up before I could! :) Thanks, Wendy.
Those are some really good posts, P14. Keep them coming. Although you have posted, you can always counter your friends' posts. This would serve as some practice for your 'counter-argument' skills when writing GP essays. :)
As for the rest of you, take note that you have to post by Friday night! :)
Fr: Miss Diana
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
Ernest's Entry On Singlehood
Are All singles Unhappy?
My entry has references to a Times magazine article found in: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,997804,00.html
Retrieved on 30/1/08. 8.50 p.m.
Singlehood is fundamentally a cost of human progress and the constant desire to attain higher intellectual or spiritual achievement. Of course, there are more effects that progress causes, but singlehood shows a distinct lack of desire to follow nature's course and settle down, which then indicates an evolution in lifestyle.
People have created an entire system, in general, that can afford to exclude the prospect of marriage.Whether it is the entertainment and tourism industry, the media or work fulfillment etc, people have basically all the things they want to do in the world and all the reasons to regard marriage as the rhetorical "been there, done that" relationship.To elaborate, I refer to the Time article, stating that " I've finally matured enough to acknowledge that there's more to life than being married." People have moved beyond the goal of marriage, simply because they no longer place emphasis on marriage as what they have to achieve in life. People can still be successful and happy while completely bypassing marriage in their lives.Thus, people have not only made happiness despite singlehood possible, but probably even attractive.
I think that as society progresses, the "bar" or "level" of what we perceive as perfection rises indefinitely. People then tend to be very selective or even exclusive of almost every aspect of their lives. People not only want to find that artificially conceptualised, media tarnished version of a "soulmate" , but are also not prepared to invest in the time taken to find that person. Time must now be spent on what is most worth spending on. Happiness then comes from attaining what is the closest to perfection, with singlehood opening a way to do this and marriage more of a hindrance.
The society has also elevated the status of "friends" . Friends are in abundance, are easy to be around, are immune to "infidelity" and can be changed like clothing. Friends are convenient, and this idea has been irrevocably "marketed" to us in an increasingly liberal world. Why worry about staying monogamous when you can enjoy vacations, all-nighters and meeting new people on a daily basis?
Singlehood is an alternative or a substitute to happiness that is found in a healthy, thriving marriage.It is subjected to the individual's perception of happiness, but , in realistic terms, really allows one to experience so much more of the world in his or her own way without being tied down.Either way, singlehood is a great example to illustrate how diverse the human race is and how the pursuit of happiness often allows our paths to cross.Singles aren't unhappy, they just think differently from couples.
My entry has references to a Times magazine article found in: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,997804,00.html
Retrieved on 30/1/08. 8.50 p.m.
Singlehood is fundamentally a cost of human progress and the constant desire to attain higher intellectual or spiritual achievement. Of course, there are more effects that progress causes, but singlehood shows a distinct lack of desire to follow nature's course and settle down, which then indicates an evolution in lifestyle.
People have created an entire system, in general, that can afford to exclude the prospect of marriage.Whether it is the entertainment and tourism industry, the media or work fulfillment etc, people have basically all the things they want to do in the world and all the reasons to regard marriage as the rhetorical "been there, done that" relationship.To elaborate, I refer to the Time article, stating that " I've finally matured enough to acknowledge that there's more to life than being married." People have moved beyond the goal of marriage, simply because they no longer place emphasis on marriage as what they have to achieve in life. People can still be successful and happy while completely bypassing marriage in their lives.Thus, people have not only made happiness despite singlehood possible, but probably even attractive.
I think that as society progresses, the "bar" or "level" of what we perceive as perfection rises indefinitely. People then tend to be very selective or even exclusive of almost every aspect of their lives. People not only want to find that artificially conceptualised, media tarnished version of a "soulmate" , but are also not prepared to invest in the time taken to find that person. Time must now be spent on what is most worth spending on. Happiness then comes from attaining what is the closest to perfection, with singlehood opening a way to do this and marriage more of a hindrance.
The society has also elevated the status of "friends" . Friends are in abundance, are easy to be around, are immune to "infidelity" and can be changed like clothing. Friends are convenient, and this idea has been irrevocably "marketed" to us in an increasingly liberal world. Why worry about staying monogamous when you can enjoy vacations, all-nighters and meeting new people on a daily basis?
Singlehood is an alternative or a substitute to happiness that is found in a healthy, thriving marriage.It is subjected to the individual's perception of happiness, but , in realistic terms, really allows one to experience so much more of the world in his or her own way without being tied down.Either way, singlehood is a great example to illustrate how diverse the human race is and how the pursuit of happiness often allows our paths to cross.Singles aren't unhappy, they just think differently from couples.
MIMI'S ENTRY:
being single has become kind of irrelevant in today's society.nowadays,we usually see only teenagers dating but not older women in their 30s.i think the main reason why the majority of these women choose to remain single is because they want to focus more on their career.Gender equality is not what it used to be in the past.Now women are also working instead of only the men.In my opinion,i think these women do not wish to be tied down by the burden of having to juggle children and their career.Another reason for not having a boyfriend is because they are afriad they are not able to handle the emotional problems that usually happen in a relationship.they feel that they will truely be happy being single.My personal view is,being single rocks:D
being single has become kind of irrelevant in today's society.nowadays,we usually see only teenagers dating but not older women in their 30s.i think the main reason why the majority of these women choose to remain single is because they want to focus more on their career.Gender equality is not what it used to be in the past.Now women are also working instead of only the men.In my opinion,i think these women do not wish to be tied down by the burden of having to juggle children and their career.Another reason for not having a boyfriend is because they are afriad they are not able to handle the emotional problems that usually happen in a relationship.they feel that they will truely be happy being single.My personal view is,being single rocks:D
Wendy's entry on singlehood.
Are all singles unhappy? Discuss.
The Sunday Times, Lifestyle.
January 27th, 2008.
by Sumiko Tan.
With society being more liberal these days,people often find novelty in flirting around and are not keen on settling down on a permanent soul mate. However, people are unable to sustain such a novelty for long. As age catches up with them, they would realise that what is left of them would only be a void within.
In regard to the newspaper article above, it has clearly portrayed the woes of singles.
Whereby they are caught having too much free time on their hands, that it has resulted in boredom. Life is not as interesting as before,and they often find themselves engaging in regular routines. There are no reasons for them to look forward to each day,such as hoping to witness certain developments in their children, or to handle common family related issues.
Very often, they would also feel out casted when their married/attached friends are engaged in conversations regarding their spouses and children. Singles would then start to feel as if they have lost touch with their surroundings.
Singles will also start to develop phobias towards occasions such as the Lunar New Year, whereby very often, they are bombarded with questions concerning their singlehood. This has shown that being single is not much accepted by society. Also, when one is known to be single for a rather long period of time, people may start to make assumptions of your singlehood. People will start to think that there are certain "problems" that lie in you, and start to question about your attitude and personality, or certain behavioral problems that lie in you.Which contributes to parties of the opposite sex shunning away from you.
Although it may be seen that singlehood brings with it freedom and boundless opportunities. And that one may feel that there is not a need to be responsible for others, and the role which they have to take on if they were to be attached. However, in this society and in singles themselves, (as seen from the article) they are mainly perceived as being incomplete and deprived.
;DDDDDDD
WENDY!
Nizam entry on Singlehood
I feel that singlehood in this society is becoming more and more prominent. I feel that women in this era loves singlehoos as compared to being attached. One disadvantage of being attached is the committment. One has to be a hundred percent committed to whomever they are attahed to. They cannot flirt or fool around with other people without feeling the guilt of cheating his or her partner. I feel that singlehood is more appropriate in this era as now people are being more and more immature in that sense they are not able to handle relationships more maturely. Relationships do not usually work as couples are now pushing the blame on each other instead of stiing down and having a mature conversation to try to figure and comprimise on how to solve the issue. Instead they now are pushing the blame on each other. This then causes the women to see how easy life is without all the emotional baggage broken relationships bring. Being single also means that women will be more independentb and not to rely so much on her other half to support her. This also will prove to male chauvanist pigs that women can be strong or even stronger than men.
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Singlehood
BBC : http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/2195609.stm
Thursday, 15 August, 2002, 13:44 GMT 14:44 UK
Being single 'worse than smoking.'
Getting wed is good for your health.
The health benefits of being married are so large that single men are at greater risk of dying than smokers, says a study.
The study looked at comparative risks over a seven year period - but experts warned that the lifetime risks of smoking were much higher. Scientists have frequently found that married men and women tend to be in better health than their single counterparts. This is partly because of the "social support" of having a wife or husband - and perhaps because both single men and women have a worse lifestyle - and no-one to look out for their wellbeing.
However, the latest study, by researchers at the University of Warwick, looked at thousands of records from the British Household Panel Survey and the British Retirement Survey. It found that, even when the effects of smoking, drinking and other poor lifestyles were taken into account, married men had a much lower risk of death. Over a seven year period, the married male had a 9% lower risk of dying compared with an unmarried one.
When smoking and drinking in this group was taken into account, the benefit was reduced to 6.1%.
Not money
The effect was less for women - reducing the risk of mortality by 2.9%. According to the Warwick calculations, a male smoker had a 5.8% greater risk of dying, and a female smoker 5.1% extra risk.
Professor Andrew Oswald, who led the research, suggested that male smokers should get wed as soon as possible to counteract the risk. He said: "Forget cash. It is as clear as day from the data that marriage, rather than money, is what keeps people alive. "It makes perfect sense to ask how a ring of gold can possibly do this. "But the honest answer is, that we don't know."
However, while over a seven year period, the risks of smoking compared to single life might be roughly comparable, the lifetime risk to smokers is much higher. A long-term smoker is thought to have a one in two chance of dying prematurely. Whether the lifetime risk of being single even begins to approach this figure is highly dubious.
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Subsequent to our lesson on 'Single and Fabulous' during GP lesson, I thought this article would serve as an interesting point for support, especially for those who think that 'Getting married is better than staying single.' :)
Let's discuss further on this phenomenon of 'singlehood.'
Recall the video we watched during the lesson. Carrie Bradshaw said,
(Deadline: 1st February 2008, 2359hrs)
Fr: Miss Diana
Thursday, 15 August, 2002, 13:44 GMT 14:44 UK
Being single 'worse than smoking.'
Getting wed is good for your health.The health benefits of being married are so large that single men are at greater risk of dying than smokers, says a study.
The study looked at comparative risks over a seven year period - but experts warned that the lifetime risks of smoking were much higher. Scientists have frequently found that married men and women tend to be in better health than their single counterparts. This is partly because of the "social support" of having a wife or husband - and perhaps because both single men and women have a worse lifestyle - and no-one to look out for their wellbeing.
However, the latest study, by researchers at the University of Warwick, looked at thousands of records from the British Household Panel Survey and the British Retirement Survey. It found that, even when the effects of smoking, drinking and other poor lifestyles were taken into account, married men had a much lower risk of death. Over a seven year period, the married male had a 9% lower risk of dying compared with an unmarried one.
When smoking and drinking in this group was taken into account, the benefit was reduced to 6.1%.
Not money
The effect was less for women - reducing the risk of mortality by 2.9%. According to the Warwick calculations, a male smoker had a 5.8% greater risk of dying, and a female smoker 5.1% extra risk.
Professor Andrew Oswald, who led the research, suggested that male smokers should get wed as soon as possible to counteract the risk. He said: "Forget cash. It is as clear as day from the data that marriage, rather than money, is what keeps people alive. "It makes perfect sense to ask how a ring of gold can possibly do this. "But the honest answer is, that we don't know."
However, while over a seven year period, the risks of smoking compared to single life might be roughly comparable, the lifetime risk to smokers is much higher. A long-term smoker is thought to have a one in two chance of dying prematurely. Whether the lifetime risk of being single even begins to approach this figure is highly dubious.
___________________________________________________________________
Subsequent to our lesson on 'Single and Fabulous' during GP lesson, I thought this article would serve as an interesting point for support, especially for those who think that 'Getting married is better than staying single.' :)
Let's discuss further on this phenomenon of 'singlehood.'
Recall the video we watched during the lesson. Carrie Bradshaw said,
When did being alone become the modern-day equivalent to being aAre all singles unhappy? Discuss
leper?.........Then i had a frightening thought, maybe I was the one who was
faking it. All these years, faking to myself that I was happy being single.
(Deadline: 1st February 2008, 2359hrs)
Fr: Miss Diana
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