Sunday, February 17, 2008

ZhiWei's view on Singlehood

For Singlehood:

"In relationships, a single person is one who is not married, or, more broadly, who is not in an exclusive romantic relationship." - Good O'Wiki

Being single can have its on pros and cons. 

Single men and women are able to actively pursue their dreams in career or through any other medium. Every single one of us has dreams. There are always something that we dream of doing or having. Being single is like being released from a cage and given the freedom to fly freely like the birds in the sky. We can go wherever we want and do whatever we want. Life without the burden of a relationship or marriage is what many of us will love to have.

Living a life of quietness and isolation ain't that bad as well. Imagine yourself on a Hawaiian Island all alone and quiet. The only sound you hear is the calm Pacific water washing against the golden sand. The air is cool and refreshing and it brushes across your face. As you slip into a quiet undisturbed nap, you feel like as if you are floating up into the heavens...

Well, not a bad description of what it feels like to be single. But being single also creates problems.

Sure the Hawaiian Dream sounds attractive but even when place in that position, one day somehow you will want to step out of the foldable chair and find life-long companion. People who remain single usually will face with problems like loneliness. Singlehood deprives people of the close companionship and the close intimacy that is all humans' needs. Sometime in our life we will want to have someone to love and care for just as much as we need their love and care. 

Car is a luxury we have. Wine is a luxury we have. Time is not. Even as you read this, what you had eaten for the previous meal is history and you cannot go back to change what you have eaten. The same goes for us as we seek relationships. We have to face the fact that as we grow older, especially beyond the age of 40, the chances of us successfully finding a spouse get lower. Even if we find success in doing so, how much time do you think we will have to enjoy the love and intimacy that can be found in a marriage or relationship?

Indeed being single grants us the freedom many married couples do not have. But after achieving all that we want, there bound to be the desire for us to settle down and start a family. Even when married, we still can enjoy some of the freedom that single men and women have. We still have the ability to travel the world and live the Hawaiian Dream. We still can feel the joy of flying freely but why not share this joy with someone we love?

Just like darkness is the absence of light and death is the absence of life, I feel that singlehood is the absence of intimacy. Therefore, we should not think of marriage and relationship as a cage. Instead, we should think of it as the freedom to love.

-ZhiWei

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Hannah's views on homosexuality : blessing or a curse?

Is homosexuality a blessing or a curse? when we see people of the same sex hanging out together, often, what would we think?

Gathering some information and research, I have found out that the mainstream moral values of Singaporeans are conservative and homosexual acts are unlawful, I have also discovered that based on statistics,
A survey found that 69 per cent of Singaporeans have a negative view of homosexuality, 23 per cent are positive and 8 per cent ...(www.asiaone.com/Just%2BWoman/About%2BMe/Columns/Story/A1Story20071107-35072.html - 39k -)
This truly meant that Singaporeans were still against the idea of having gays sticking around the country.

On a personal basis, I have taken a stand on NOT supporting the gay movement. For one, I think that it is definitely more of a curse rather than a blessing to have homosexuality practiced in this nation. For two, I believe that homosexuality is NOT a natural thing. Infact, I believe that this has regards with psychological issues. However, though I may not approve, it does not mean that all disapproves too. There is still 23% who are positive about this act.

How has homosexuality become a curse rather than a blessing to me? -you may ask. Here are my reasons. First, I would like to define the word homosexuals, and their practice, homosexuality.
Based on the online dictionary, homosexuals, is the sexual orientation to persons of the same sex. , and their practice, homosexuality is defined as, sexual desire or behavior directed toward a person or persons of one's own sex. which meant that an contemptible act is involved in the process of homosexuality.
Many through this act has got themselves into serious, deadly illnesses that cost their lives. Some, got influenced by the people around them, and also influenced the others into this practice, there are also cases that actually surfaces that psychotic gays using children if they had no sex partner.All these were the main concern of not supporting the gay movement, but of course, not supporting their movement does not mean we discriminate, we are still people who understand the value of humanity.
There are much more cases of why Singapore society disapproves of the homosexuality movement, but only this much would be mentioned.
Thus, weighing the pros and cons has enabled me to define that homosexuality is still a social stigma and more of a curse rather than blessing in society in today's context.

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Donovan- Homosexuality-A curse or a blessing

In Singapore, the government has decided not to appeal Section 377A of the Penal Code. Abolishing the law would "send the wrong signal" and push gay activists to ask for more concessions, such as same-sex marriage.But homosexuals are still given space to live their own lives as long as they do not actively advocate their lifestyle.
Indeed, if homosexuals actively advocated their lifestyle(e.g. gay parades) this would, especially in the eyes of parents promote homosexuality which many would find offensive and morally wrong. While times have changed and there are activists who try to urge the law to be repealed, Singapore is still a rather a conservative society and gays are not allowed to set the tone. The tone of the society remains straight.

In western countries, homosexuality is generally more accepted. Most western countries have laws that protect homosexuals from violence or discrimination. But in many other countries, they are not safe from discrimination. Homosexuals are often frowned upon by society and religions consider homosexuality a taboo. Homosexuals are shunned by the public and in some cases, a homosexual person can be fired from a job because he is a gay, even if he is a good worker. Homosexuals can also be denied renting a house or eating at restraunts because of their sexual orientation. And, not forgetting ocassions where the law prohibits gay-marriages , denying homosexuals from getting into intimate relations with each other. This is definitely a curse to being a homosexual especially if they live in countries with strict laws on homosexuals.

On the positive side, homosexuals can contribute to the economy, especially in the pink dollar industry. Companies that tap into such markets can benefit , especially when one considers the amount of money homosexuals can inject into the economy. There are currently companies that embark on marketing strategies targeted at homosexuals, even trying to raise the number of homosexual customers, due to their economic importance. For homosexuals, this is one good point for them and the country's economy too can benefit.

But for the vast majority of the time, homosexuals have to live in a society where they are discriminated and shunned by the public, being labeled as "untouchables".
Therefore, in my opinion, homosexuality is definitely more of a curse than a blessing.

Kang Liang's entry on Homosexuality: Blessing or Curse

Homosexuality has become a very big event in our modern life as we can see with our own eyes around us. Homosexuality defines that the people who are of the same gender are in love and even up to some sexual behaviour. In the past, when we hear about such things, maybe most of the people will be really disgusted about it, but for now, as people are more highly educated, they seems to be more open and it maybe treated as a trend. We will not be able to decide if it is either a curse or a blessing; it is up to the people to make the choices that they find suit them most.

We shall now look at some views of people supporting homosexuality which will include the benefits which made them chose this path. To some of the people, for some of their personal reasons, they have lost confidence in their opposite gender, and therefore they will divert their attention to homosexuality which they find it is a more safer route to take. Others will find that they will have more confidence for doing something that is always considered WRONG in the past. By doing so, they can expand their social cycle not only to opposite gender, but also to the same gender.

Lets now look at people from the other coast which follows the tradition of life which does not support homosexuality. They have listed out the disadvantages for not supporting homosexuality. Homosexuality to them is very foreign as they are males and females on this earth for a reason and thats for reproduction. To them, by doing the thing the other way round, which means homosexuality, means you are trying to make a North pole of a magnet to attract to the North pole of another magnet which is always impossible and in the end there is no product formed which is a waste of time. To them, by going against their religion, or family traditions, they are like breaking their own arms or legs which mean in the end a high price must be paid, but the efforts are not paid off. In the long run, homosexuality will lead to social and even economic problems as homosexuals will not be able to give birth and also families may break up when they have different opinions on the homosexuality issue. To better cope or to cure the society, they have come up with a proposal to maintain the law of penal code 377A which imprisons people for having sexual behaviour between same genders in public and even in private.

Sides of the arguments have submitted proposals for the penal code 377A, one is to repeal the code and one is to maintain the status quo for the code. Even though there may not have an answer now to either repeal the code or to maintain it. In my opinion, I do not support homosexuality as to my views it will not have any advantages. Be it either it is a curse or a blessing it is really up to the people to decide their fate.

Shenglian's views on homosexuality

Homosexuality is getting to be a common sight in the Singaporean society today,where people of the same sex behave intimately even at public places.This has led to much discussions amongst different people from the society.In my opinion,I feel that homosexuality is a curse.
As you may have known,homosexuality does indeed widen people's social circles,where they can make more friends not only from the opposite sex,but among the same sex as well.They can get to spend more time together also.
However,getting involved in such relationships are considered as "unhealthy",according to concerned Singaporean parents,and also some individuals who are against the idea of homosexuality.The more time they spend in such relationships,they will tend to get more confused about their sexual status,where they will then tend to behave more in a feminine or masculine way,which is treated as "undesirable" by many locals,therefore leading to the statement that homosexuality is a curse.
Another cause for homosexuality may be that some had been hurt by past relationships with the opposite sex,so they have turned to getting involved in homosexual activities,so as to relieve the pain of being in a relationship where opposite sexes are involved.
Although it may be true that one will be happier in such relationships,but what's the point of having counsellers in Singapore when people do not consult them for help in such cases?They should have approached a counseller for advices when they have failed in their love life,or relationships with the opposite sex.So homosexuality is viewed as a curse more than as a blessing.
Henceforth,in my opinion,I feel that homosexuality is a curse,since it does more harm than good to Singaporeans.

Monday, February 11, 2008

HOMOSEXUALITY

A homosexual refers to a person who is attracted to both sexes.Is it a blessing or a curse?In my opinion,i feel that homosexuality is a curse.Being a homosexual causes alot of problems.

For most religions,being a homosexual goes against their beliefs.Unless your family is very secular,having to explain to your relatives that you are a homosexual will put you in a tight spot as they will look at you differently.Some very traditional parents will still force their homosexual child to marry the opposite sex as they are afraid to damage the family name.I feel that this will cause the homosexual to be very sad as he'she is not able to be with his'her loved one.Instead he is being forced to marry someone whom he does not really love.He will not be able to find TRUE HAPPINESS.

In today's society,many of the older generation have stereotyped homosexuals to be wierd people.This is not true as you cannot judge a book by its cover.Many talents in the society are homosexuals: tim gunn and karl lagerfeld.Our society needs talents like these to design our clothes and stuff like that.It doesnt matter if they are gay or not.I feel that everyone is important even gays and lesbians.Just as long as they dont do gross stuff in public,I think they should be appreciated just the same as a straight person(:

love,
MIMI =D

Rachel's Entry on Homosexuality:Blessing or Curse

Homosexuality refers to sexual behaviour or attraction between people of the same sex, or to a sexual orientation. Singaporeans, with their fast-paced lifestyle to uphold its cosmopolitan reputation, have neglected the issues and problems posed by homosexuals. Before we say whether homosexuality is a blessing or a curse, we should consider how it will affect people's way of life and cognitive impression. In a country like Singapore, we might be modern but there is still a majority of us who are traditional in our beliefs and heritage, and might feel uneasy when discussing the subject of homosexuality. It largely remains a taboo topic in many Singaporean households and parents do not encourage their sons or daughters to be associated or accept homosexuality. Hence it brings us to our topic of whether homosexuality is really a blessing or a curse in this modern era.

The present open attitude towards homosexuality may be a blessing to people who have problems dealing with their sexual preferences. Now they are able to come 'out of the closet' and confess their sexual preferences and tendencies towards their own gender. It 'permits' these people to come forward and be honest towards everyone, including their family, friends and the public. It does not directly affect the population as a whole and might even be accepted into our society in the future as it will not pose any adverse effects towards the general public.

Moreover, being homosexual would not necessarily mean that the person should be shunned or treated any differently. In addition, we might have friends or relatives who are homosexuals but we would not be able to find out about it as they might be afraid of all the negative publicity they might face if they ever admitted their sexual preferences. Therefore, you can consider the acceptance of homosexuality as a blessing in this case as it provides a platform for homosexuals out there to stand up bravely and admit that that they are homosexuals.

Another way that homosexuality might prove to be beneficial and a blessing in disguise would be that family and friends can rally around these homosexuals and actually improve family relations and foster social cohesion and family bonding. Some would argue that families might become estranged with their daughters or sons because they simply can't accept the fact that they are homosexuals. However, the saying that "Blood is thicker than water" is put to the test. Trust becomes an important key in this case as it depends fully on whether these parents can accept their kids for who they really are. Most of the time, parents would rally and suppport their children's decisions as it concerns their happiness and might determine the outcome of the relatiomship between parent and child. Therefore, most parents are more forthcoming nowadays and will encourage their children to pursue thier happiness and find their better half no matter what consequences they might have to face in the near future. Through such an incident, it might help to improve relations among family members and also reinforce the bond that both parents and children share together.

It might prove to be a blessing as it also helps to alert the public of the rising trend of homosexuals and educate them on how to embrace these homosexuals into our society. For example, the penal code 377A is getting a lot of attention and publicity. It has made the general public sit up and notice that there is such a law and that homosexuals are suffering in silence because of the general public's selfshness and shallow mindset that homosexuality should not be tolerated and should be forbidden.

However, recently much media attention was given to this topic as a result of some artists in Singapore speaking out for these homosexuals ... asking for homosexuals to be given their well deserved rights. As expected, it has sparked some controversy among many Singaporeans and the government. Some people question how Singapore is going to advance and catch up with our American counterparts if we do not even have an open mindset and accept homosexuality as a way of life in our society.

However, there are always people who reject the idea of homosexuality as it might tarnish Singapore's squeaky clean reputation and righteous government policies. As such, there is much stimulating debate about homosexuality being accepted into society as the government has to cater to the majority of the general public in Singapore.

This might prove to be a double-edged sword as people might view this issue with different perspectives, hence it might prove to be both a blessing and curse after all.

Even now in Singapore, when people mention homosexuality or breathe the word homosexuals, they would cringe or be in for a backlash. This is how the majority of Singaporeans react when posed with such an issue even though they say they are all out for Singapore to become more modern and open minded. This is such an ironic statement as it shows us how shallow people's mindsets are. It is even worse when you tell your family about it. They would just brush it aside and think that you are insane to ever harbour such thoughts.

Furthermore, the general public has not been educated on the subject as we remain a very conservative society and country, therefore this issue will be met with more criticisms than acceptance from the general public because they are not ready to accept the fact that common gender can love each other and build a home together. Hence, there would definitely be discrimination for homosexuals regardless of their gender as the public is not ready to take that big leap forward to break the traditional rules that have been put in place so many thousand years ago. Therefore, homosexuality might prove to be a curse in such aspects.

When faced with such a situation, there would be legal and social impacts that will affect the public. For example, the penal code might be there for a reason and for now, homosexuality is more of a hindrance than a curse as it is now illegal to allow homosexuality in Singapore. Another impact that will affect the society would be the erosion of social ethics and moral values as there is confusion and no order if this law was ever changed.

It might also lead to an increase in the number of people affected with Sexual Transmitted Diseases (STD) and this will affect the population as a whole. Another way it may pose as a negative social impact would be the fact that acceptance might not be widely received by the public. Therefore, to prevent such a situation from happening, the government needs to take steps to educate the public and the younger generation to help them come to terms with this issue. Therefore, there would be problems that the government will have to overcome first before they make homosexuality legal in Singapore.

To conclude, I believe that Singapore is taking many baby steps to becoming more modern and open. Therefore, I sincerely believe that homosexuality is just another way of life that people will have to embrace eventually and might turn out to be a blessing as it will open the floodgates to making Singaporeans more open-minded and liberal in the future. Therefore, I believe that in time to come, Singaporeans will come to terms with this situation and just accept it as another way of living. So, do you believe that Singaporeans will be able to make it happen?

Wendy's entry on Homosexuality: Blessing or curse?

The world is becoming more liberal these days, whereby people are more exposed to issues pertaining to which are not brought up as openly in the past.
In this case, Homosexuality.
There are many differing views concerning this issue and therefore is homosexuality a blessing or a curse?

It is undeniable that majority of the Religions in the world do not encourage Homosexuality,
as it is regarded as inappropriate. Not only does it go against the many values that are meant to be inculcated into a person, it also goes against nature, and the "proper" way of life.
Religions are also very focused on the belief of procreation. As such,
doesn't Homosexuality hinder it and pose a obstacle to this issue?

Homosexuality have also yet to be considered as being mainstream, and gay marriages are not allowed in majority of the countries in the word.
This is due to the fact that people are not fully prepared in accepting homosexuals, thus the social stigma is evident. This in turn,might also affect tourism in countries, as not everyone is acceptive of homosexual behaviours.
Thus public display of affection between parties of the same gender might put tourists off. And that with a decrease in Tourism, which is the major income earner for many countries, it would result in a disasterous effect on the economy.
The adverse impacts on the economy are also made worse when health problems are evident. Such as the spread of STDs/HIV due to unprotected gay sex.

However, it is a fact that we can never understand a person, if we have never been in their shoes. Therefore, are we right to place our judgements on them and to ostracize them even before understanding the picture as a whole?
As such, we have to place ourselves in such an environment, (example : A single-sex school or A gay community ) whereby we are able to observe the varying emotional needs of these homosexuals.
It is very often, that we realise that homosexuality is just a phase in their lives in which a certain someone, who happen to be of the same sex, is able to satisfy their needs or to fill up a certain void in their lives. In time to come, the novelty will wear off and they will simply get on with life on the "right" track.
[AHEM. Evidence : Majority of my friends. oops:X ]


Therefore, at this point, Homosexuality is to be deemed as a curse, as society and the world today have yet to open up fully and to be totally approving of a whole new concept and the way of life.However, as long as we strive to create awareness among the people,
and with more people opening up and approving of homosexuality, it is undeniable that there are actually many advantages towards which homosexuality can bring to a country and its economy.

Assessment of Content of Entries on Singlehood

Comments by Ms Diana and Mrs Wong (Marks will be made known to you in class)

Nizam: Post does not really answer the discussion question. The question is not whether singlehood is appropriate but rather, the question wants to know whether all singles are indeed unhappy.


Wendy: Good balance. Both the pros and cons are addressed. The inclusion of the article is beneficial as well for other students to read.


Mimi: Does not address the question directly.The post seems to be answering the question as to why women choose to remain single rather than whether all singles are unhappy.


Ernest: Excellent post. Insightful and refreshing.


Rachel: Does not address the question directly though several valid points are addressed. However, there may be a point involving ‘matchmaking agencies’ which may appear as if the whole post sounds contradictory.


Karunya: Fairly balanced but stand is not substantiated fully.


Sheng Lian: Good consideration of both the differing perspectives on the joys of singlehood and married life. Good attempt to make use of counter arguments. The strength of your argument can be reinforced after listing both views.

Shawn: A balanced approach taken in tacking the question; many valid points raised. However, you may want to evaluate further the values raised in your views, whether they are morally acceptable to most.

Kang Liang: A valid examination of pros and cons of the issue. Need to improve on your paragraphing. Ensure that the elaboration of ideas fulfill question requirements e.g. your second point on benefits – how will this result in a benefit of singlehood? Evaluate your ideas fully. The question requires you to discuss your views on the issue, depending on how you define happiness.

Donovan: Many good examples raised to support your ideas. Ensure that the focus of your assignment is on singlehood, and not on marriage. After mentioning the benefits and disadvantages of marriages, link them to how singlehood may cause one to miss out on such benefits etc.

Hilary: Well-substantiated arguments used to support your claim. You ought to examine the opposing views to show how these benefits indeed do outweigh the disadvantages.

Sunday, February 10, 2008

Karunya's Entry on Homosexuality:Blessing or Curse

Homosexuality has been and still is a subject of great dispute in Singapore, as to whether it is ethical to accept it as a part of existance. Homosexuals would describe it as a way of life. It is a natural tendency for them to be attracted to and having sex with people of their own gender.
But it is not so with other parties. Having sex with partners of the same gender is heavily frowned upon by conservative individuals and the Singaporean government. These parties consider homosexuality as immoral and the ban on gay sex (the 377A penal code) by the government has been done to protect the morality of the country. An appeal to repeal this ban on gay sex has been going on for some time. Homosexuals have appealed that they too have the rights to enjoy sexual pleasures.

Homosexuality can have its good and bad points. For instance, one pro is that it is widely accepted all over the world, especially in Western countries. If Singapore repeals it’s ban on gay sex, many gay clubs, hotels and other attractions can be opened up. This results in the attraction of tourists into the country and thus improves the economy of Singapore. At the same time it would give a brand to Singapore as one of the more socially advancing contries of the world. Of, course the risk in legalising gay sex is the risk of spoiling the image of "good morals" that Singapore currently portrays to the world.

One con for homosexuals is the low status that they get in society. Many conservatives will consider them as outsiders or immoral people, because in many traditions and religions, homosexuality is considered a sin. Homosexuals find it hard to blend in with the society because people tend to judge them unjustly. Conservative parents are worried that homosexuality will have an impact on their straight children when the children interact with gay children at school and outside.

Another con for the homosexuals is the increasing chance of transmitting AIDS and STD’s, (although they can be transmitted through unprotected sex in general), gay sex actually increases the chances of transmitting these diseases. According to a survey done by Mr.John.R.Diggs, gay sex increases risk of STD’s, mental disorders, physical injuries and even a shorter life span.

Homosexuality helps the world and economy in some ways, but at the same time it is quite repugnant to many straight people. I would consider homosexuality a curse because it is something quite unaccepted or unwillingly accepted in today’s society.

Ernest's Entry On Homosexuality: Blessing or Curse

Before diving into the issue at hand, there is one very important note to make. Especially in Singapore, people get to read about homosexuality, see homosexuals in certain areas and even debate about it at one point or another through the course of their education. However, a majority do not actually get to see homosexuals fighting for their rights or at least verbalizing their grievances.(not counting what they read in their textbooks, notes and newspapers)

For many, the issue of homosexuality is far away from their daily lifestyles and they are quick to dismiss homosexuality as an issue brought up for the sheer purpose of casual(and maybe intellectual) debate. In short, the common Singapore man is detached from the issue of homosexuality. I guess, on a superficial level, the issue of homosexuality can be a useful tool to help students gain exposure to the complex world out there without it having any permanent adverse effects on their emotional growth. Our class has been having heated discussions on the issue but nobody seems to be exhibiting any abnormal and drastic change in behaviour.This, of course, would then fall under the category of homosexuality being a blessing instead of a curse, but only because it hasn't had any major negative impact on the majority of the public.

Then again, there are certain sectors of the society who have been particularly active in either supporting or discouraging homosexual activities, as in the example of the 377A penal code. In this case, the issue then becomes more serious. Supporters would bring up the issue of human rights, emphasizing that homosexual activities should be tolerated in an egalitarian society such as Singapore. This would then spiral into a more controversial and sensitive issue on whether it is morally ethical to restrict homosexual activities. Once it becomes a human rights and moral issue, a lot of work would have to be put into resolving the issue and making everyone happy.Foreigners might have doubts about the government's ability to take care of its people when these complaints arise.

Of course, these tedious discussions are crucial to ensuring the well-being of the people, but until people really see the degree in which homosexuals are suffering, they will view it as more of a "making a mountain out of a molehill " issue.In other words, the more wants the government has to satisfy, the more the problems (such as resentment towards another party) incurred from them.This would then be a curse.

Homosexuality does not define a person, and by no means should anyone pass judgement simply because one is gay. Tolerance and respect for gays would certainly indicate a mature and thinking society, although it is not the only factor that determines this. This can be taken as a blessing, except that it only works in a few societies where acceptance and tolerance has already been the existing, or rather, dominating culture for an extended period of time such that young and old have long abandoned their prejudices and are fully aware of the intimate details pertaining to homosexuality. Homosexuality must not influence their lives and it should be the other way around. There aren't many examples of such ideal places in the world and Singapore is, sad to say, probably not one of them.

All in all, Singapore is making good progress in terms of slowly shifting towards a more liberal society.However, whether or not laws restrict homosexual activities, there is an evident undercurrent of social stigma that would hinder mainstream homosexuality here in Singapore.It is not that Singapore isn't ready for homosexuality, but that it has yet to keep up with the rate at which homosexuality is being liberated. We just need more time to allow nature to take its course.It would seem forced to have homosexuality as an integral part of our lifestyle now.Thus, homosexuality would be more of a curse in this current situation.

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

HOMOSEXUALITY: BLESSING OR CURSE

Hi all, Really enjoyed reading your posts on your views on Singlehood. As we move on to the next topic on Homosexuality, I've no doubt that the exchange of ideas will be more lively and interesting. Read the following articles from Washington Post on how Singapore was loosening up in the year 2003 and from our own local Senior Correspondent Chua Mui Hoong on various perpsectives on local policies related to our liberalisation. Then, comment on the question, 'Homosexuality: Blessing or Curse?' Examine the perspectives of various parties involved, and the impact of it at different levels. This assignment will be graded for both content and language. The deadline for the assignment is 2359hours on 10th Feb, Sunday. Enjoy the discussion and debate. =) Have a good Chinese New Year hols =)

Mrs Wong
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INSIGHT: Gum, gays and the goggle box: Time to consider a U-turn Chua Mui Hoong THINKING ALOUD CHEWING gum, gay rights and satellite dishes. It's time for a U-turn on these policies.
Not only because gum-chewers, homosexuals and television viewers stand to benefit from the changes. Rather, the whole of Singapore society will benefit. Gum, gays and satellite TV can be considered 'leading indicators' of Singapore's socio-political climate. Changing these signals to Singaporeans and foreigners a sea change in the environment. The long-standing policies that restricted all three have several things in common. First, they curb minority interests for the sake of the majority. The import and sale of gum in Singapore was banned in 1992 because of the cost of cleaning up gum spat out in public transport systems. In one fell stroke, an administrative headache for public transport operators, which was also a public nuisance for the majority, was cured by the ban on gum. Criminalising consensual sexual acts between gay adults is another example of sacrificing minority interests to satisfy the majority. The other common thread: The paternalistic assumption that the state must be an arbiter of the public's morals. Privately-owned satellite dishes are banned because of concern over access to unsavoury entertainment and information. Legal strictures against homosexual behaviour aim to 'protect' the majority from being offended by such behaviour. But should the state determine private morals? Should minority interests be set aside for the majority? Instead of lending its coercive power to support intolerance by the majority, which would be quite alien to Singapore's tradition of social harmony, the state should instead consider taking a lead in supporting tolerance and openness by reversing the three bans. The advantage of changing tack on these issues, which have become icons, extends beyond Singapore's shores. The ban on chewing gum put Singapore in the news a decade ago, and continues to be cited as an example of an authoritarian regime and communitarian society. The ban on privately-owned satellite dishes represents the state's attempt to regulate and censor content, another bugbear among liberal-minded commentators. Icons are symbolic and represent more than themselves. Changing icons signals to the world at large, and Singaporeans themselves, that a new epoch is in the making. For example, the decision to allow a Hyde Park-style Speakers' Corner was interpreted by Singaporean and foreign observers alike as a harbinger of a more open society. Sceptics will ask: Why bother to change icons unless the whole tenor of society changes with it? Isn't there moral hypocrisy in relaxing a few bans, unless there is a deep-seated change in mindset? The answer: Icons matter in shaping perceptions, and perceptions matter in the battle for talent and investments. As PricewaterhouseCoopers' Marcel Fenez noted recently, in response to the announcement of the $100-million fillip for the media industry: Singapore must loosen censorship rules if it wants to be a global media city. It may have the right ingredients, but must also contend with 'external perceptions' when attracting investors. Just what are some of those external perceptions? Well, one quick way to figure this out is to look at the indices published by respected think-tanks, much in the same way that you would look at global competitiveness reports and GDP per capita rankings when assessing how investors view an economy. The best-known freedom survey is devised by Freedom House, a leading democracy advocate group founded by Eleanor Roosevelt, wife of former US president Franklin Roosevelt, nearly 60 years ago. The latest 2003 Freedom House report ranks Singapore once again as a 'partly free' country, with a score of 4.5 (1 being most free and 7 being not free) that puts it in the company of Kuwait and Nigeria. It has dismal scores for political freedoms (5) and civil rights (4). Hitherto, poor perceptions of Singapore's socio-political climate have not hindered its ability to generate real income growth. But the negative perceptions may exact a higher cost in future, as they will certainly mar Singapore's ability to position itself as a creative talent capital and as a centre of innovation. Changing external perceptions of Singapore will take a long time. But every journey begins with a small step. And small, significant steps are a good way to start. As it is, the three policies highlighted have already been modified. Selected brands of sugarless chewing gum will be imported and sold over the counter from January, in a compromise settlement reached under the Singapore-United States Free Trade Agreement, after gum-maker Wrigley's executives reportedly lobbied US Congress to insist on freer conditions of sale. Instead of a partial relaxation, why not scrap the ban altogether, and see it as an opportunity to allow a more open - and hopefully more mature and less gum-littering - society to blossom? Similarly, the ban on satellite dishes has already come under review by the Economic Restructuring Committee (ERC) last year. Removing this barrier, and the implementation of other ERC recommendations for the infocommunications technology industry, could see jobs double to 227,000. As for the policy on homosexuals, as Prime Minister Goh Chok Tong disclosed in a recent Time magazine interview, the public sector as an employer has stopped discriminating against gays, and has hired them even in sensitive positions. There are grounds for taking the next step - allowing residents to use satellite dishes, and scrapping the archaic statute criminalising sexual acts between consenting adults. Reversing these policies requires acts of leadership. They need not happen all at once, but rather after time and effort has been spent explaining the change to those perturbed by it. After all, this Government has never been shy about exercising moral leadership. In the three examples, the changes are incremental but significant, and have the potential to become rallying points to generate debate about a new, more open Singapore. Change will turn the policies on chewing gum, satellite dishes and gays from being icons of intolerance and restrictions, into icons of openness and tolerance in a new, remade Singapore. There are dividends to be reaped from the change.--------------------------------------------------------------------
Singapore Shakes Loose -- a Little Bit Rules Eased to Foster New Image By Ellen Nakashima Washington Post Foreign Service Friday, October 10, 2003; Page A21 SINGAPORE -- In a country where Cosmopolitan magazine was banned as too racy, a trio of comely young ladies, thong bikinis peeking above their hip-huggers, climbed onto a bar top one recent weeknight and began to shimmy and shake as the deejay spun. "I'm too sexy for my love, too sexy for my love. . . . I'm too sexy for my shirt, too sexy for my shirt. . . ." A young man, lured to the varnished bar top by the waitress-dancers, whipped off his shirt and joined the fun. Singapore is loosening up. A little. In this notoriously strait-laced country, a lusciously green, crime-free and litter-free island where spitting chewing gum on the sidewalk can draw a $500 fine, bar-top dancing became legal in August. Last month, censorship rules were relaxed, and now Cosmo can be sold and the American television show "Sex and the City" can play on cable TV. Beginning this week, bars in some neighborhoods will be able to stay open 24 hours. The moves were announced by the police and by the Ministry of Information, Communication and the Arts. But Playboy is still banned, strip clubs are illegal and the government, wary of social discord among the population of 3.2 million ethnic Chinese, Malays and Indians, continues to censor movies, plays and public commentary addressing issues of race, religion and politics. In the 38 years since it became an independent republic, Singapore leapfrogged from Third World poverty to great prosperity. But former prime minister Lee Kuan Yew, who led the city-state for most of its history, also tried to shape social behavior with strict laws and a series of social campaigns. The result, say many Singaporeans, has been a limiting of free expression. "If you ask me whether this is the kind of Singapore that Lee Kuan Yew and the first generation envisioned, the answer is no," said Kevin Tan, a constitutional law expert. "What they clearly wanted is a less rambunctious society, ordered and controlled, but I don't think they wanted one that was totally bereft of imagination, gumption and flair." As Singapore struggles to emerge from the Asian economic crisis of the late 1990s, the government is trying to foster an image of a more relaxed place, with a climate conducive to attracting creative minds. "Even as we strive to become a more creative and entrepreneurial society, we still have to safeguard core community values," said Lee Boon Yang, minister for information, communication and the arts, at a news conference last month when announcing the easing of censorship rules. "We have to work out a balance for ourselves based on the fact that we are a multiracial, multireligious and multicultural society." The ministry made changes -- the first in a decade -- after a 17-month study by a censorship review committee. For example, it now allows people who are at least 18 to see some movies previously restricted to those 21 and over. But it dashed other proposals, including one from an artists' group to designate areas where plays and movies could be shown regardless of content. Artists say the government is handicapping society. "Singapore won't advance as fast as we should in an intellectual and cultural sense," said Low Kee Hong, associate artistic director at TheatreWorks, a stage company. "In the last five or six years, there's been a lot of talk about a Singapore renaissance. But it's very difficult for Singapore to go through this radical change because people are still very conservative." The government says that Singaporeans are not ready for more freedom. The censorship review panel conducted a survey that found that 70 percent of respondents were satisfied with current censorship standards. "We are moving in tandem with what society wants," said one government official. But Alfian Bin Sa'at, a Singaporean of Malay ethnicity who has written plays about the Malay experience, said he does not believe the government is interested in listening to the people. A government panel last year cut or changed several lines in a play he wrote, in one case insisting that the Singaporean character have the final word in an argument with the Malaysian. The dispute referred to a real-life controversy over whether Muslim head scarves should be allowed in public schools. They still cannot be worn. "How much does the government intend to control these things?" Sa'at wrote in an e-mail interview posted on a Singaporean Web site for the free exchange of ideas. "Why this paranoia that any kind of activity which gives Singaporeans some kind of outlet to speak out . . . will by default result in something anti-establishment?" To Singaporeans such as Annie, a 30-year-old office assistant who insisted that only her first name be used, legalizing bar-top dancing is trivial. The government has helped stitch the straitjacket that traps people's creativity, she said. "Your path is predetermined by the government," she said, alluding to the state's rigid educational system that emphasizes passing exams. "To be successful, you need to have a university degree. If you do not take this orthodox path, you will most probably go nowhere, by the government's definition. A kid can't say, 'Dad, I want to be a plumber.' " Sitting at a club called Coyote Ugly, the first in town to showcase its bar-top dancers, Gary Goh, a 40-year-old salesman, watched the scene and said, "It's no big deal for me. It's nothing compared to Bangkok." He said that what he values most in a country is the opportunity to express himself and to earn a living. "The world is very small nowadays," he said. "If Singapore doesn't loosen up, people will go away." -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Monday, February 4, 2008

Good morning, P14! I hope your weekend has been enriching. Thank you for all the insightful entries. Keep it going. You are always free to continue with the discussion despite the fact that the deadline has past. Your entries will be assessed over the CNY break.

Oh, and one more thing, I will post the next blog assignment soon. :) The next one (Topic: Homosexuality) would be interesting for most of you, judging from the aggressive Hot-Seat session we had last week.

Cheers!
Fr: Miss Diana

Friday, February 1, 2008

Hilary's take on singlehood!

Singlehood is honestly not such a bad thing, when we look at it objectively. It only looks bad because of the labels society has attached to it, such as "unwanted" and "left on the shelf".

When we do view singlehood in an unbiased, objective manner, however, this lifestyle choice does have several benefits.

1) On an emotional level, one has lesser emotional baggage when one remains unattached. This would perhaps allow one to keep work in focus, as one's viewpoint is not excessively obscured by emotions. For example, students in school are able to concentrate on their work better when they're not busy thinking about the significant other in their relationship, or worse still, mulling over a recent breakup.

2) Singlehood gives one freedom, as one is not obliged to another. One does not have to spend every waking moment thinking about Him/Her, and feeling guilty when one starts looking at another Him/Her while still attached to the first. One may also do whatever one wishes; no more telling your husband/wife where you were the night before, or reporting every detail to the Other Person. One is free to roam and free to mingle, and can do so without an ounce of guilt.

3) Some people may find it easier to raise a child on his/her own, as there is lesser clash of values and concepts. Starting a family is now possible without marriage, through adoption or other means (ahem). In any case, society no longer views single mums the way they used to; single mums were once seen as people who were careless, who had made a mistake, and who were living in the shadow of their mistake. But now we see a new image emerging, one that portrays single mums as strong individuals who are able to balance a career while singlehandedly raising a child (or children), and have made it in today's tough society. With this in mind, some parents find it easier to raise a child on his/her own, as there is one person in charge, with one method of teaching, and one set of morals and ideas, which reduces the amount of bickering which parents have regarding the upbringing of their children.

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I do agree however, that singlehood has its downsides, but I believe that the benefits do outweigh the detriments (perhaps I shall talk about the detriments another day, although they generally can be solved with the help of ten million cats), therefore GO WITH SINGLEHOOD. WOOT~

[okok so this post is 30min late. sorryyyyy]

Donovan chin- Singlehood

As the society progresses, people now have different attitudes towards marriage. In the case of Singapore, while marriages in the past were arranged and people had no say in who they married , now with greater freedom, more people are choosing to remain single.

But are all singles unhappy?Views are divided on this.

When one is single, it is easy to think that they will be lonely and depressed. But this is not necessarily the case. Sure, they are lonely but there are singles who are just as happy the way they are. Singles have their own financial independence and can buy what they want and spend their money as they please. They also get to enjoy more freedom and can pursue career opportunities without being constrained by marriage and children. Children can be a burden as the free time and money of adults is spent on caring for the child. The parents also have to worry about their child when he or she is sick or on how their child is doing in school. Being single frees them of such worries. Being single also saves them from the occasional domestic quarrels with not just between husband and wife, but with the in-laws as well. Some singles would have heard from their friends who are married complain about how difficult life is with having to care for children or facing their in-laws. Upon hearing these experiences, singles will definitely feel proud of their status.

But being lonely can be a downside. While children can be a burden, they can also bring joy and having a family adds meaning and purpose to one's life. There are also many couples who happily spend leisure time with their children. Just think, when the parents are coming back for work, there is always someone waiting for them. Being married and being able to love can be better than leading a single life.

So singles are indeed happy with their lifestyle. But at the end of the day, single or not, it all depends on the individual's opinion.

Kang Liang's entry on singlehood

Singlehood? Singlehood in many ways can be good or bad depending on the person or situation. Results and survey have shown that there are more singlehood cases in this modern society compared to the past. This is probably due to a change in the mindset of people in the modern society, such as having better education or influenced by other countries or people that it may be a trendy thing. There are a few reasons that singlehood is considered good by many people. Firstly, they think that they have more freedom as they will not be bounded down by family responsibilities such as taking care of children in the family which can be a tedious thing. Secondly, as more people are more educated now, they all tend to work even women. When they work, they will need to depart lots of their time to work such as having to work overtime or burn the midnight oil to submit the proposals. In this case they won’t be able to take care of their children or to keep their spouse company which may cause an internal family conflict. Thirdly, as all people have their own dreams, not all have the chance to fulfil them. They chose to remain single is to pursue their dreams. If they were to be married, or even to have children, many dreams cannot be fulfilled as there is a family waiting for them to take care of. In my opinion, singlehood also has its own disadvantages. When people grow old, people will normally fall sick or even develop diseases. At this period of time, what they need most is people to take care of them and give them warmth and support to carry on with their life. Their parents will not be able to take care of them now as they all passed away in their ageing life. Siblings may have their own family to take care off and will also not be able to dedicate their love and care for them. In conclusion, singlehood has its own advantages and disadvantages. How to have a happy life in singlehood or marriage, it’s up to you to choose your path that most suits you.

Shawn's entry on Singlehood.

In Singapore, the middle aged and older generations frowns upon singlehood as they believe it is a taboo and singles are deviating from the mainstream behaviour will be unhappy. Despite having very little positive portrayal of singlehood in local media, I still strongly feel that being single does not equate to being unhappy.

Single and fabulous is often the tagline for singles and I totally agree with it. Being single means that we are not accountable to a special someone. We can then do whatever we want without any restriction or certain actions just out of obligation to make someone happy. This freedom is a potent attraction for people who wish to become singles. Being single can garner a special unspoken permission from the society to flirt around with different people and enjoy the joys of a person paying special attention to you, period, without needing to commit to him or her. Some people call these people the “legless birds”, flitting from people to people for a short timing and not settle own with any of them. The best motivation for this type of behaviour is having the freedom to mix around with different people and have different dating experiences to derive joy.

Another reason for singles to be happy is that they can splurge all their income on themselves, unlike their married counterparts that budgets it for the ever-increasing family expenses. Showered with Prada or Louis Vuitton merchandises, they will definitely look gorgeous. Being single also means that he or she does not have to account his fashion outlook to anyone (for example, no boyfriends to restrict girls to wear mini-skirts), they can dress outrageous and wild with a good sense of pride. With such a expensive yet affordable outlook, people on the street will definitely take a few more looks at them, boosting their ego. With pride and ego undisturbed by people, they feel that they can be truly who they are and not conceal their character through clothing, they will feel happy to be looking the way they have always want to be.

Most of the time, materialism does not always work on satisfying a person’s emotional needs. Singles will definitely have moment of weaknesses where they want someone to be there for them, supporting them. For example on how moment of weakness originates, there will be the society’s negative view on singles that will slowly erode off the ego of singles, criticism and awful stares will permeate through their shield of confidence that is protecting their inner heart. With comments like “eccentric” or “the inability to find a spouse” thrown at them, they will start questioning themselves as to why there is no one that will appreciate them and slowly mope about this fact.

In spite of this, the negative outlook on life for the moping singles can be eradicated with human interaction. This human attention that they yearn for, may not necessary be coming from someone that they love romantically. It can also come from best friends, listening to them and supporting them through their darkest moments of their lives. This can be evident from the American drama serial, Friends, whereby a group of best friends who are single, living in two adjacent units in an apartment. Living in such close proximity allows them to be there to lift someone out of his or her moment of weakness all together as a group of friends. With good friends backing these singles up at all times, they cannot be too poignant about life, can they?

Not only that singles can obtain comfort from friends, singles can also get this comfort from sex or more commonly known as One Night Stands. Throughout the process of it, the physical close contact with another person can yield the physical comfort that they need. Sometimes, after the actual act, there will be a pep talk which will then elevate the spirit of the person which is more often than not, the most satisfying to females. Furthermore, it is no longer considered a taboo to have pre-marital sex in this liberalising century. Thus, singles no longer see the need to get married as they can choose different sexual partners and stick to a good one that will not only make them feel good physically but also emotionally. With the option of changing sex partners and keeping one good one without the commitment from relationship, singles can see another reason to put a smile on their face. :D

All in all, being single and fabulous rocks! Hahahaha. :) Eh, i hope someone here can point out my bad points in my essay. Thanks in advance. I love P14, the ever vocal and bubbly class! :D

-Shawn Ng Kit Yong

ShengLian's opinion

In my opinion,I find that singlehood is beneficial in some ways,but it is not the best way out.
Firstly,even though we get to enjoy more freedom (social life especially) when we are single,how about the joy we would have when spending time with our loved ones,or even our children?Yes,we do get to go out and spend more time with friends,including friends of the opposite sex.However,being together with your loved ones are equally as enjoyable and in my opinion,one would get double the happiness.Hence,singles are less happy than married couples.
Secondly,as we are single,some of us would tend to develop negative thoughts about marriage,since we are seeing divorce rates on the rise in the recent years.We would then feel "safe" that we are not married and do not have to face the difficulties and troubles marriage can bring,such as adultry,and lack of sexual pleasure.Although this may be true,this is only just a one-sided point of view.We do have the choice of making ourselves happy in life after marriage.So,it's always more enjoyable to start a family.
Lastly,when we are single,we may be able to concentrate more on our careers,so as to enjoy life as we retire.On the other hand,we can still be working while devoting some of our time to our family.We should strike a balance between work and family matters in order to attain the higher level of happpiness.Therefore,we can then be more happy as we get married.
In conclusion,I feel that singles are happy,but only at certain points of their lives,especially if they are able to strike a balance between work and social life.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

Karunya's entry on singlehood

Are all singles unhapy?

With the rapidly changing trends of the modern society, singlehood is being widely accepted and embraced. I think that singlehood has it's good and bad sides...One of the most popular reasons why people (especially women) prefer to be single is because of the freedom that they get. Unmarried women are not bound by spousal and family responsibilities. Being single gives them a chance to pursue their dreams and careers. They are able to focus more on themselves and do not always have to put others before themselves. Taking on late night job shifts, which is quite impossible for married people, can be done be the singles. They are also able to travel around more and go on official trips (without getting complaints about "not taking care of the family" from out-lawish in-laws).
This freedom also helps singles to develop a sense of self-sufficiency and independance. They learn not to rely on their spouse for financial assistance etc, unlike married people.
The most obvious con of singlehood is that single poeple may tend to feel more anxious and stressed than married people. This is because of the lack of emotional and moral support from their spouse and family.
The image that we get through the word "spinster" is that of an old lady surrounded by cats. Now, cats are nice animals, but they are just......cats....... Singles may feel lonely without the support and love of a partner.
So personally, even though singlehood could have it's benefits, I think marriage is the more fulfilling of the two.

My source: www.naaree.com/mamblog-section/relationships/the-pros-and-cons-of-staying-single-

Rachel's entry on singlehood

Are all singles unhappy? Discuss

In our modern era, being single is considered the new "in" thing as we are allowed to transcend and break all boundaries regarding singlehood and marriage. Technically speaking, singles may feel the need to prove to all who believe in marriage that singlehood might not be a bad thing as many singles have shown that they are able to excel both in their career and personal life. Furthermore, being single also means more freedom to date as well as no restrictions when persuing a new relationship. There is no right or wrong in dating multiple partners, hence singles may actually love this new and hip lifestyle change as they need not conform to the traditional norms of marriage.

Morever, being single also has its privilages. There are many clubs and pubs having promotions to attract singletons to enjoy themselves and wind down. Singles can also apply for matchmaking agencies where you can meet many different types of the opposite gender who come from all walks of life. Being married restricts oneself from enjoying these privilages, hence the popular option to remain single. in addition, singles are now so independent and are able to support themselves, therefore seeing no need to depend on a spouse to bring back the dough for the family. Therefore, I believe that singletons remain single and on the market because of many perks that singlehood can offer them. Hence, who dares to say that singles are unhappy?
Wow wow wow, what a pleasant surprise I had this morning to see several posts up already. Good job, P14!

Credits to Wendy who scanned/took a picture of that very interesting article. I read it in the papers a couple of days back and meant to bring it for lesson but kudos to you for bringing that up before I could! :) Thanks, Wendy.

Those are some really good posts, P14. Keep them coming. Although you have posted, you can always counter your friends' posts. This would serve as some practice for your 'counter-argument' skills when writing GP essays. :)

As for the rest of you, take note that you have to post by Friday night! :)

Fr: Miss Diana

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Ernest's Entry On Singlehood

Are All singles Unhappy?
My entry has references to a Times magazine article found in: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,997804,00.html
Retrieved on 30/1/08. 8.50 p.m.

Singlehood is fundamentally a cost of human progress and the constant desire to attain higher intellectual or spiritual achievement. Of course, there are more effects that progress causes, but singlehood shows a distinct lack of desire to follow nature's course and settle down, which then indicates an evolution in lifestyle.
People have created an entire system, in general, that can afford to exclude the prospect of marriage.Whether it is the entertainment and tourism industry, the media or work fulfillment etc, people have basically all the things they want to do in the world and all the reasons to regard marriage as the rhetorical "been there, done that" relationship.To elaborate, I refer to the Time article, stating that " I've finally matured enough to acknowledge that there's more to life than being married." People have moved beyond the goal of marriage, simply because they no longer place emphasis on marriage as what they have to achieve in life. People can still be successful and happy while completely bypassing marriage in their lives.Thus, people have not only made happiness despite singlehood possible, but probably even attractive.
I think that as society progresses, the "bar" or "level" of what we perceive as perfection rises indefinitely. People then tend to be very selective or even exclusive of almost every aspect of their lives. People not only want to find that artificially conceptualised, media tarnished version of a "soulmate" , but are also not prepared to invest in the time taken to find that person. Time must now be spent on what is most worth spending on. Happiness then comes from attaining what is the closest to perfection, with singlehood opening a way to do this and marriage more of a hindrance.
The society has also elevated the status of "friends" . Friends are in abundance, are easy to be around, are immune to "infidelity" and can be changed like clothing. Friends are convenient, and this idea has been irrevocably "marketed" to us in an increasingly liberal world. Why worry about staying monogamous when you can enjoy vacations, all-nighters and meeting new people on a daily basis?
Singlehood is an alternative or a substitute to happiness that is found in a healthy, thriving marriage.It is subjected to the individual's perception of happiness, but , in realistic terms, really allows one to experience so much more of the world in his or her own way without being tied down.Either way, singlehood is a great example to illustrate how diverse the human race is and how the pursuit of happiness often allows our paths to cross.Singles aren't unhappy, they just think differently from couples.
MIMI'S ENTRY:
being single has become kind of irrelevant in today's society.nowadays,we usually see only teenagers dating but not older women in their 30s.i think the main reason why the majority of these women choose to remain single is because they want to focus more on their career.Gender equality is not what it used to be in the past.Now women are also working instead of only the men.In my opinion,i think these women do not wish to be tied down by the burden of having to juggle children and their career.Another reason for not having a boyfriend is because they are afriad they are not able to handle the emotional problems that usually happen in a relationship.they feel that they will truely be happy being single.My personal view is,being single rocks:D


Wendy's entry on singlehood.
Are all singles unhappy? Discuss.


The Sunday Times, Lifestyle.
January 27th, 2008.
by Sumiko Tan.


With society being more liberal these days,people often find novelty in flirting around and are not keen on settling down on a permanent soul mate. However, people are unable to sustain such a novelty for long. As age catches up with them, they would realise that what is left of them would only be a void within.

In regard to the newspaper article above, it has clearly portrayed the woes of singles.
Whereby they are caught having too much free time on their hands, that it has resulted in boredom. Life is not as interesting as before,and they often find themselves engaging in regular routines. There are no reasons for them to look forward to each day,such as hoping to witness certain developments in their children, or to handle common family related issues.
Very often, they would also feel out casted when their married/attached friends are engaged in conversations regarding their spouses and children. Singles would then start to feel as if they have lost touch with their surroundings.

Singles will also start to develop phobias towards occasions such as the Lunar New Year, whereby very often, they are bombarded with questions concerning their singlehood. This has shown that being single is not much accepted by society. Also, when one is known to be single for a rather long period of time, people may start to make assumptions of your singlehood. People will start to think that there are certain "problems" that lie in you, and start to question about your attitude and personality, or certain behavioral problems that lie in you.Which contributes to parties of the opposite sex shunning away from you.

Although it may be seen that singlehood brings with it freedom and boundless opportunities. And that one may feel that there is not a need to be responsible for others, and the role which they have to take on if they were to be attached. However, in this society and in singles themselves, (as seen from the article) they are mainly perceived as being incomplete and deprived.


;DDDDDDD
WENDY!

Nizam entry on Singlehood

I feel that singlehood in this society is becoming more and more prominent. I feel that women in this era loves singlehoos as compared to being attached. One disadvantage of being attached is the committment. One has to be a hundred percent committed to whomever they are attahed to. They cannot flirt or fool around with other people without feeling the guilt of cheating his or her partner. I feel that singlehood is more appropriate in this era as now people are being more and more immature in that sense they are not able to handle relationships more maturely. Relationships do not usually work as couples are now pushing the blame on each other instead of stiing down and having a mature conversation to try to figure and comprimise on how to solve the issue. Instead they now are pushing the blame on each other. This then causes the women to see how easy life is without all the emotional baggage broken relationships bring. Being single also means that women will be more independentb and not to rely so much on her other half to support her. This also will prove to male chauvanist pigs that women can be strong or even stronger than men.

Sunday, January 27, 2008

Singlehood

BBC : http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/2195609.stm
Thursday, 15 August, 2002, 13:44 GMT 14:44 UK

Being single 'worse than smoking.'

Getting wed is good for your health.

The health benefits of being married are so large that single men are at greater risk of dying than smokers, says a study.
The study looked at comparative risks over a seven year period - but experts warned that the lifetime risks of smoking were much higher. Scientists have frequently found that married men and women tend to be in better health than their single counterparts. This is partly because of the "social support" of having a wife or husband - and perhaps because both single men and women have a worse lifestyle - and no-one to look out for their wellbeing.


However, the latest study, by researchers at the University of Warwick, looked at thousands of records from the British Household Panel Survey and the British Retirement Survey. It found that, even when the effects of smoking, drinking and other poor lifestyles were taken into account, married men had a much lower risk of death. Over a seven year period, the married male had a 9% lower risk of dying compared with an unmarried one.


When smoking and drinking in this group was taken into account, the benefit was reduced to 6.1%.


Not money
The effect was less for women - reducing the risk of mortality by 2.9%. According to the Warwick calculations, a male smoker had a 5.8% greater risk of dying, and a female smoker 5.1% extra risk.


Professor Andrew Oswald, who led the research, suggested that male smokers should get wed as soon as possible to counteract the risk. He said: "Forget cash. It is as clear as day from the data that marriage, rather than money, is what keeps people alive. "It makes perfect sense to ask how a ring of gold can possibly do this. "But the honest answer is, that we don't know."


However, while over a seven year period, the risks of smoking compared to single life might be roughly comparable, the lifetime risk to smokers is much higher. A long-term smoker is thought to have a one in two chance of dying prematurely. Whether the lifetime risk of being single even begins to approach this figure is highly dubious.

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Subsequent to our lesson on 'Single and Fabulous' during GP lesson, I thought this article would serve as an interesting point for support, especially for those who think that 'Getting married is better than staying single.' :)

Let's discuss further on this phenomenon of 'singlehood.'

Recall the video we watched during the lesson. Carrie Bradshaw said,
When did being alone become the modern-day equivalent to being a
leper?.........Then i had a frightening thought, maybe I was the one who was
faking it. All these years, faking to myself that I was happy being single.
Are all singles unhappy? Discuss
(Deadline: 1st February 2008, 2359hrs)

Fr: Miss Diana